Fatherlessness has unfortunately affected many families and generations. It’s a topic sensitive for many and when thought about can arouse feelings of anger, confusion, sadness, insecurity, and doubt. God ordained man to be the head of the household (1 Corinthians 11:3) and when the father is missing or not leading as he should; it affects the family. Don’t get me wrong, the mother, family members, and the church can then step in to help as needed but the father plays such a vital role in families that when he is missing it can affect generations after.
Wives, children, and communities need men who are actively pursuing Christ and who respect their wives and love her as Christ loved the Church. We need men who teach and show us what it means to be a gentleman, to offer a unique presence of security and protection. A Father may be the reason why a woman knows her worth or why she seeks validation from society. A Father may be the reason why a man honors family values and after Christ, serves his family. Or he may be the reason why a man has neglected familial values and would much rather pursue money, chicks, or fame.
I can go on and on about what our world would be like if more Fathers played the role that they should and as much as I feel like I want to go back in time and change the trajectory; I can’t. I don’t know how life would be like with a Godly Father and as much as I feel like I don’t have a reason to celebrate Father’s Day; I think I have the biggest reason to. So do you.
Recently, I watched the movie “Logan” and it struck such a huge nerve in me regarding how I view God as my Father. So pretty much, (Spoiler Alert) “The Wolverine” finds out he has a daughter with similar mutant abilities and in the beginning they have a rocky relationship and he embarks on a pretty wild journey to keep her safe (and friends). They end up with a reconciled relationship (which wasn’t perfect), fighting off the bad guys which leaves him dead in the arms of his daughter.
Although The Wolverine didn’t know he had a daughter. God does. He knows that He has many daughters and sons and so sent His ONLY son Jesus Christ to embark on the hardest journey someone has ever lived and died on The Cross for you and I; taking up our sin and the wrath that we deserved just to save us and give us the hope of eternal life. And because God is my Father and I am His daughter, there is power and authority that I have that comes from Him. My Father and I are walking through life together and He protects me from the enemy and protects me and guards me in ways that no one else can. I did not always know that God was my Father and because of His pursuit of me, we now have a reconciled relationship. God’s desire is to have a reconciled relationship with us and He demonstrated that so perfectly through Jesus Christ.
Although I wish I didn’t have to deal with the sting of Fatherlessness, although I wish siblings, cousins, friends, orphans, communities, schools etc.. didn’t/don’t have to deal with the sting of Fatherlessness; WE have a Father in Jesus Christ, and Christ has given me my self worth and identity. He has given me a purpose to live. He gives me Top-level security and protection. If you wanna get to me you gotta go through Him. I am an heir and royalty. Jesus Christ has always been the ultimate example and He can teach fatherless sons what it means to be a gentleman and what it means to be a Godly man, how to love their wives and their families. How to use their special calling for good, and how they can impact their communities.
Jesus Christ is my Father and because of His grace; one day God-willing I’ll marry a God-fearing husband and one day if I have children; they’ll never have to suffer from a Fatherless home not because of any security I have in myself or my husband but because of the security we have in God. Every day is a reason to celebrate Father’s Day and if you find yourself without an earthly father or without a reason to celebrate know that God sent his son Jesus to die for you; so that you can be reconciled to Him as His child. You’ll soon realize that a life with Christ means that you’ll never go a day without a Father.
15 For you did not receive a spirit of slavery that returns you to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” 16 The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. 17 And if we are children, then we are heirs: heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ—if indeed we suffer with Him, so that we may also be glorified with Him.
18 I consider that our present sufferings are not comparable to the glory that will be revealed in us. 19 The creation waits in eager expectation for the revelation of the sons of God.